Adults are really funny when it comes to setting out on a new learning adventure. I have found that many are so afraid of failure that they either impede their potential for learning or they just turn the whole experience into a personal nightmare due to a lack of confidence.
Sometimes, people will come up to me and tell me how talented and creative I am; they usually cover their insecurities with: “the only thing I can play is the radio” or “I can’t even walk and chew gum at the same time”.
The truth of the matter is that the majority of the population can actually learn music in some form. Fear of failure is the reason most adults don’t follow their interest in learning a musical instrument.
Here are some steps you can take to help conquer that fear of failure:
- Do it for the right reason of which there is only one, YOU SIMPLY WANT TO.
- Do research to find the “right” teacher. Try out the teacher by having “one” lesson. If it feels right, continue, if it doesn’t try another. Not every teacher is right for every student. There is a chemistry involved like all relationships.
- TRUST your teacher; if you don’t, that particular teacher is not the right one for you. Choose another.
- Understand that the whole proposition is a building process. There is no magic, just consistency of effort, the communication between teacher and student and the unconditional love of the endeavor.
There are so many things YOU have to do; learning a musical instrument is something YOU do for YOU because YOU want to. If it becomes a stress, YOU shouldn’t do it!
Jack Benny loved music. His love of music was to to be admired; especially how he integrated it into his comedy. He made fun of himself as he pursued perhaps his biggest passion in life.
“Last night at Carnegie Hall, Jack Benny played Mendelssohn.
Mendelssohn lost”. – Harold C. Schonberg